It is not our job to fix people. We are however, as Christians called to spread the gospel. I know you have heard the saying: You can lead a horse to water but can’t make the horse drink. You can go out and buy Fiji water and put it in a new trough for your horse. You can even add a pretty garnish, but it is still up to the horse to take a drink. The horse can see that you have put water out. The horse KNOWS it can have a drink. The horse may or may not realize that it is Fiji water. That part really doesn’t matter. The point is we spread the Gospel in many different forms, but we can’t force or have any control over what the person will do with it.
It can be the most frustrating thing in the world, in my opinion. I am sure if you think about it- there is maybe one person that you are always trying to get to change. (For good reason! Lol) Maybe you have a child or sibling that is battling addiction. Maybe your husband is addicted to pornography or an adulterer. Maybe you have an atheist that you work beside everyday from 9-5. Maybe you have a child that is having trouble with their sexuality. Maybe you have a parent that is being tormented by terrible mental illnesses. Maybe you are a teacher and witness children that have never even heard the name Jesus. I don’t know if you know this or not, but you can’t fix it.
You get to do something even better. I said better, not easier. You get to give it to God. You get to pray for them! If you can physically pray with them that’s great, but not everyone can. You can pray for them in private, get a friend involved on your prayer mission, or even get the church to be in prayer for your need or desire. You get the chance to exercise your faith and scripture!
AMEN! You get to lean on some of the promises of God.
Isaiah 49:25 (NLT)
“But the Lord says, “The captives of warriors will be released and the plunder of tyrants will be retrieved. For I will fight those who fight you and I will save your children.”
Luke 11:13 (NIV)
“If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”
Joshua 1:8 (NLT)
“Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.”
Psalm 32:8 (NIV)
“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should: I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.”
Romans 5:3-5 (NLT)
“We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”
Isaiah 49:25 (NLT)
“But the Lord says, “The captives of warriors will be released, and the plunder of tyrants will be retrieved. For I will fight those who fight you, and I will save your children.”
I want to go back to that better, not easier part. If you have been on your walk with God you know that things are simple, not easy. How many know it is so easy to tell someone else in your household to do the dishes, fold a load of clothes, or even just bring the dirty clothes to you so you can wash them. Easy right. That is how easy it should be to surrender things to God. It should be but it isn’t. Why? My answer that comes from my personal opinion is that you can’t see Him. You can not literally see him and say, “Oh hey Jesus, could you please go shake some sense into my spouse.” (haha) It is such a simple thing to do, but it is not easy. It requires faith to pray and give tough situations to God.
I want to end this with something that one of my spiritual mentors used to say all the time. When she would hear someone saying, “All you can do is pray, or I guess you’ll just have to pray about it.” She would say, “WHAT?! You mean you get to pray. Praying is not a last resort but should be at the forefront of your mind to do in all situations. Thank you, Jesus that we can come before you BOLDLY with our needs.” I will remember that for as long as I live. It stands out to me when I hear people say those things. We get to pray, and thank goodness that all of my needs, worries, and desires don’t depend on my ability! Amen?! What a load off!
I challenge you to be more aware of the words you speak as well as others around you. Remind yourself, and others that you can not fix anyone or anything. You get to do something way better, you get to pray.